I am no expert when it comes to cheating. However, I can say (from my unofficial research, which consists of being a woman and having many female friends) that typically when your gut tells you something is wrong with your relationship, it’s because there is. Subtle signs can be clues, like changes in your partner’s appearance, spending extra time at work, or the biggest: being jumpy and secretive when it comes to their phone or tablet.
Between dating apps, messaging apps, and secret phone numbers, today’s technology makes cheating pretty easy. Ladies, that knot in your stomach is not all you have to go on anymore. The same technology that enables cheaters to slither around seemingly undetectable can also help catch a cheater red-handed.
Here Are The Top 5 Ways To Catch A Cheater:
1. Spy On Their Phone And Tablet (Without Them Even Knowing!
Most cheaters know to delete text messages and hide or rename, apps. Another favorite tactic of cheaters is to change the contact name of the person they’re cheating with to something like, “Steve from accounting.” Don’t fall for those lame go-to’s from the Cheater’s Handbook, instead spy on their cell phone to get the answers you need.
Two women that I know caught their husbands cheating through a cell phone spy app. There are several programs available that will allow you to see your significant other’s call logs, pictures, browser history, social media, private messaging apps, and even GPS location.
2. Use Their Own Phone Against Them
All iPhones have the Find My Phone app so users can track a lost or stolen phone. You can find your partner’s phone (and them) by logging in with their Apple ID and password. If that’s not possible, convince them to download Find My Friends, which will function the same way. But if they’re smart, this will be turned off. If they’re not smart, then you can grab tons of information from their iCloud.
Anything uploaded to the cloud is visible, even if deleted content. My Photo Stream is like cloud storage on steroids. It stores photos and also pushes them to Apple devices like iPads, Mac computers, and iPhones. If the two of you live together, or they have ever connected to your iCloud, there is a good chance you can see any of the pics they have taken or sent.
3. Stalk Their Social Media Accounts
Just about everyone has some type of social media profile. Most of us have many. Social platforms like Facebook and Snapchat make it easy to cheat but to be caught as well. While we’ve all done our fair share of creeping before, I’m going to share some next-level stuff.
The Graph Search on Facebook allows a user to enter just a few phrases and find a pool of people. Search “friends of [enter cheater’s name].” Do they talk incessantly about a new person at work or the gym? Search “Alissa works at Cheaters R Us” voila! Not sure who they’re talking to? Try to search this: “Photos [cheater name]has liked” or “photos [cheater name]has commented on.” Any qualifying question could work. If they use other, less transparent social platforms, utilize the spy app Cara used to catch her cheating husband to see all of his online activities.
4. Check The Garbage
Now, this might sound insane and kind of old-school PI movie-esque, but most people are mindless when it comes to physical evidence. Receipts torn off of new clothes, women’s clothes maybe? Lingerie you did not receive, or even new clothes your partner bought for themself that they haven’t shown you. Other giveaways are credit card receipts to movies, restaurants, hotels even. And if they are of the super thoughtless species, you may even find condoms, wrappers, boxes, or pregnancy tests! I’m not suggesting to go digging through the garbage right now, and if you’re at the point of desperation, your partner is probably cheating on you. But this might give you closure.
Don’t forget to check the trash on their computer too.
5. Hidden Camera
In the age of selfies, Snapchat, and beauty filters on everything, it’s not a stretch to say a hidden camera will also provide you undeniable proof your SO is not doing right by you. There is everything from the nanny cam (don’t hide it in a teddy bear, that will be creepy), to hidden camera apps for both Android smartphones and iPhones. Not ready to take the leap into full-on FBI mode? Try this little trick: Using your Apple Watch, you can access your camera from it if by leaving the camera open on your phone. Leave your phone inconspicuously facing your partner and use the bathroom. Turn the camera on from your watch and see if they immediately pick up their phone to start texting. It’s sneaky but will give you the intel you need.
Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater
So, here is the part that everyone reading this probably should have skipped right to. If your instincts insinuate your partner is cheating, they probably are. Utilizing the aforementioned methods of how to catch a cheater might give you the proof needed to walk away, and that is worth it. Don’t, however, let them convince you that you’re crazy. Trust your gut, be aware of the red flags, and prove it with these tips.
Frequently Asked Questions About Catching A Cheater
Is it okay to cheat on someone who cheated on you?
First, ask yourself: How did it feel when your partner cheated on you? Would you want your partner to feel the same way? In the moment, it may seem like a good decision since you want to get back at them. However, cheating on a partner who cheated on you is never the answer. It will just further strain and damage your relationship, possibly to the point it cannot be repaired. Instead of choosing to cheat on them, talk to your partner regarding what motivated them to cheat on you and take the baby steps to address their concerns.
Why do people cheat in relationships?
There are no straightforward reasons as to why people cheat in relationships. However, the reasons may include:
- Lack of physical attraction and intimacy.
- They need an ego boost, especially when the relationship is going through a rough patch or life is becoming too hard.
- As revenge for cheating on you in the past.
- Don’t feel as though you’re committed to the relationship anymore.
How can I find out if my partner’s cheating?
As detailed previously, you can find out if your partner is cheating on you by:
- Monitoring their devices including tablets, computers, and phones.
- Use “Find My Phone” or “Find My Device” apps to track their whereabouts.
- Go to their social media accounts and view their posts, comments, friends, etc.
- Go through their garbage or drawers to find evidence of cheating.
- Install hidden cameras in your home to capture them cheating in the act.
What is the best app to catch a cheater?
If you are looking to monitor your partner’s phone, we highly recommend Highster Mobile. This app retrieves the target phone’s texts, photos, videos, GPS location, social media messages, and more. Disclaimer: Using an app to monitor and track your partner’s phone without their permission is illegal, and we don’t condone such actions.