Every relationship has its ups and downs. Some have more ups, while others have more downs. And you know, if you’re in a relationship with more ups, you’re one of the lucky ones. You may have found the right person to spend the rest of your life with. However, if you’re in a relationship where the downs outweigh the ups, then you should probably think twice about continuing on with it. Figuring out how to balance life and love is one of the toughest challenges for any couple.
Every relationship starts off wonderfully (or at least it should). The beginning stages of love are wonderful. It’s like the first day of spring every single day. You wake (maybe next to that special someone) with a smile, thinking about all the wonderful things you’re going to do that day (and the next…and for the rest of your life). When you’re at work, you are constantly texting and Facebook messaging them because you just can’t stand to be apart. When together, you hold hands everywhere you go, kiss, cuddle, and have passionate, mind-blowing sex oh, I don’t know, three times a day at least.
Eventually, the euphoria that comes with new love tapers off and reality begins to set in. Things aren’t necessarily bad, but they aren’t all fairy dust and googly eyes every single moment of your life anymore. You both wake up and begin your daily routine, head off to school or work, meet up for dinner or drinks at night, then have sex (only, not as often and probably not as passionately), and go to sleep. Many people spend the rest of their lives living that way, and in all honesty, that’s not a bad way to live.
Other relationships fare worse, often due to two common reasons: children and money. Kids—as wonderful as they can be—are romance killers. When your day is spent taking care of children, there’s very little time or energy left for a romantic interlude. Honestly, the motivation to even try to do so becomes an afterthought or, worse, another task on the already too-long to-do list. Money is even more difficult. Nothing stresses people out more than financial issues. I assume you’ve heard that money is the root of all evil? Well, you’d better believe it. Money problems are love’s biggest enemy—the number one cause of arguments—and they’ve led to more than their fair share of divorces and break-ups. In fact, being secretive about money can be a sign of infidelity, another major cause of broken relationships.
Getting through life with one person takes work. It requires a great deal of trust. You need to have faith in fidelity, finances, and, well, basically everything! You can’t spend the rest of your life with someone you don’t think has your back. When the downs start to rise above the ups, you need to know that your “soulmate” will be there for you. That he will stand there with you and face whatever life is throwing your way.
If he’s not, it’s time to start rethinking the matter. Perhaps it just wasn’t meant to be. You will find better. You are worthy of better. Trust me on that.
NOTE: For more life advice from Amelia Crane, check out her related blog post: How Do You Do It All? Time Management For Busy Lifestyles