I’m often asked, “Amelia, how do you do it all?” To be quite honest, the answer is that I don’t. I don’t do it all. I do it a little at a time, piece by piece.
At this point, you’re probably wondering what I mean by “it.” The concept of “it” is life as a whole. The juggling game that is the crazy chaos of life and the actual process of time management. Take me, for instance. I’m writing a relationship ebook, working as a life coach, taking care of my puppy, Finn, and I’ve got a million other things for work—conferences to attend, papers to write, case studies to edit, and files to organize. On top of that, I’ve got my blog writing to keep up with.
In short, my life is hectic. But I never complain and fall behind with what I have to do. That’s because I take it in small doses. I always tell my clients that the best way to keep up with life is to stop trying! Yes, that’s right. Stop trying to keep up with life. Life will always continue on and it stops for no one. So just take whatever you have to do and do whatever you can. Don’t try to fit it all within a certain time frame. Break it down into manageable parts.
Here’s a small sample of how I organize my day:
1. Writing and editing
I generally devote 2 hours a day to the tasks of writing and editing. So whether it’s working on my ebook about catching a cheater, or editing a blog post, I pick the most pressing items on my list to work on. Now, these tasks don’t have to be done for 2 straight hours. Sometimes I work on editing a blog post and it only takes me 15 minutes. Then I move on to another task, take a break for lunch, or walk Finn. Later on in the day, I get back to writing and/or editing. The point is that I spend 2 hours total (and 2 hours only) on my agenda items. The order that these things get done is unimportant.
I spend a total of 1 hour on organizing. Organizing encompasses many tasks: cataloging old files, scheduling clients, organizing my iPhone apps, cleaning out my inbox, etc. As with writing and editing, the important thing is that I spend a solid hour on this and no more than that. It can be broken up however I want, so long as I spend a total of an hour on it.
This is another task I devote a full 2 hours too. I research for a variety of reasons: material for my writing, educating myself on different situations and aspects of life that would help my clients, the best skincare products to use (okay this one is not for work, but good hygiene is important), and more. You get the picture.
The rest varies day by day. Sometimes I see 4 clients a day, taking up 4 (or more) hours of my time. Sometimes I see only 1 (on those days, I go grocery shopping and run errands with my newfound free time). Of course, feeding Finn and taking him out for walks is part of my daily schedule, and I set aside some time each week to relax and refresh my brain. I also try to get at least 7 full hours of sleep per night. The concept of “beauty sleep” is a real one!
Don’t neglect the things that are important to you. Make sure to focus on your own health, your family, and your friends above all. The rest of the things you have to do can be trickled in.
Don’t overdo it. Don’t overthink it. Just take it slow and you’ll find that life is a lot easier to live.