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My (Dangerous) Adventures of Online Dating

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Nowadays, people are turning to online dating websites in the hopes of finding true love. They are using dating sites and apps to meet potential mates that they can go on a date with. But because anyone can easily create a persona and hide behind a screen, it’s easy to lie on your profile. 

From writing a simple, white lie to creating an entirely fake identity, the sky’s the limit in online dating. This is why there are women out there who have had their fair share of online dating horror stories. They struggle with finding the right person online even though there are a lot of people utilizing these apps and sites. 

If you are using apps like Tinder to find a potential match, here are some of the most common (and dangerous) people you’ll meet on these websites. You just might land a date with one of these guys so you must know how to protect yourself. At the end of this article, we’ll share some important tips when utilizing online dating sites to safely meet people. 

The Creep

While there are some legit online daters that you can meet, it’s also possible that you’ll come across creepy people. They are typically the ones who are very eager to meet in person, especially after only a few exchanges with you. And when you agree to go on a date with them, they’ll exhibit some signs that show just how creepy they are. 

In my experience, I dated a guy who turned out to be a real creep at the end of the night. At first, everything was going well. He picked me up at my house and we headed over to a nice restaurant. But as soon as we started talking, things took a deep dive. 

He was very demanding. He wanted me to answer all of his questions at a fast pace. He also said some rude things about a couple nearby, which turned me off. 

When it was time for me to leave, he insisted on bringing me home but I declined. I didn’t want to see him again after exhibiting his arrogant attitude during our date. I guess he didn’t take my decision lightly since he came to my apartment almost every day for a week just so I would explain why I didn’t want to go on another date with him. He also kept calling me on my phone and even showed up at my workplace unannounced one time. That was pretty weird, especially since I never told him where I worked. 

He only stopped when I decided to adopt a stray dog, who ran after him. Needless to say, I decided to take the dog home with me! 

The Catfisher

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Another time, I used an online dating site to find a partner and it failed me – this was three years ago. The site I was using had a good matching system that matched me with someone who I was so excited to meet. He was good-looking and had muscles in all the right places. Not to mention, he was adventurous and a very interesting person, which intrigued me. I thought I wouldn’t be able to catch his attention but when we matched, he quickly sent me a message. 

I thought that was it– I had finally used a website that helped me find love. Ever since we crossed paths, we couldn’t stop exchanging messages. But strangely enough, we never had the chance to do a video call. There was always something up with him, which didn’t ring any bells for me at the time. But it didn’t really matter to me. He was everything I wanted in a guy… until he turned out to be a completely different person. 

I found a way to look him up and decided to surprise him. In the end, I was the one who had a surprise. I was catfished– he looked nothing like his photos and he didn’t do any of the things he said he did. I ended the relationship right away after finding that out!  

The Married Man

And finally, the worst type of guy you’ll meet on dating websites – the married man. I’ve found several of these guys who, unfortunately, I went out on a date with. I never knew they were married as they didn’t have a wedding band on. But as soon as I found out, I stopped all communication with them. One time, a man’s wife found me at my local coffee shop and slapped me! Needless to say, be sure you’re not dating a married man!

What’s A Girl To Do?

It’s true there are plenty of fish in the online dating pool. But with many of those guys being creeps, married, or catfishers, the pool gets much smaller. This is why it’s important you do the following things when you find potential partners:

Do a Background Check

When you get matched with someone online, the first thing you need to do is to run a quick background check on them. From experience, running a Google search doesn’t turn up great results. Instead, I recommend utilizing a person lookup service like ClickSearch. By just entering your match’s name, you can learn all about them and view their social media profiles to confirm their identity and they are telling the truth. 

Learn More About Your Date

 

Look through Social Media Profiles

Besides using ClickSearch to find your match’s social media profiles, you can do so manually. Make sure to check the most popular sites– Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. If he says he’s not on any of these sites, he’s likely lying and hiding something. 

Do a Reverse Image Search

If you wish to ensure you’re not being catfished, run a reverse image search. This will help in determining if the photo you received is real or not. If you are being catfished, you’ll likely see a stock photo or another person’s social media account. This can easily be done through Google. 

Conduct a County Criminal Record Search

You’ll need to know if you are dealing with someone who could potentially be dangerous. Having a criminal record may not be a dealbreaker for you. But if he is prone to violence, it just might save you from getting hurt if you decide to go on a date with him. 

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Amelia Crane
Amelia is a relationship expert and full-time author who loves to help those in need. Her interest in women’s and couples’ issues blossomed in college during a women’s studies course that prompted her career path. When she isn’t writing or giving love advice, Amelia enjoys curling up with a good book and her puppy Finn.

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